“Never in my life did I think I would spread mayonnaise with a carrot!” my young friend exclaimed. We were on the road for at least an hour before I remembered that we brought stuff to make sandwiches but nothing to spread the condiments.
On Friday, July 15th, my four friends and I loaded up my parent’s van and headed to Washington DC for Reset (Together) 2016. I knew almost nothing about this event but, after lots of prayer, felt the call to attend.
Reset consisted of over 40 of big name artists and speakers who were encouraging millennials to pray and reach out to those in our daily lives.
God didn’t do what I expected. The overall trip was fun, but I spent most of the day of the event itself trying to suppress my symptoms of heat stroke instead of worshiping and praying with everyone else.
On the way home, my friends had a financial crisis. Most of the group couldn’t figure out where their money was going. Being raised in a money-conscious home, the only thing I bought outside of mutual costs was a 6 dollar dinner on the way there. It came out that I had spent the least money, so my friends came to the conclusion that I wasn’t paying my full share.
I explained to my best friend what I had spent on each thing since the trip started. We discovered that I really had been splitting things as evenly as possible, but everyone else was spending more at gas stations than they realized. She tried to explain this to the others, but they seemed to be convinced they didn’t spend that much extra.
To try to settle things, I paid for the last bit of gas. I honestly didn’t mind paying for it until I realized that they didn’t see it as a gift to them, but instead saw it as something I owed them. This hurt.
I went into this trip expecting God to teach me something about prayer or worship, but instead I learned the importance of taking full financial responsibility—even for more than just myself. Now, I am learning to let go of my hurt and just learn from it.
Although situations like this are difficult, I know God refines me through them. I now have the oppertunity to extend grace toward my friends, just like Christ did for us. God is teaching me how to be more like Christ.
Sometimes, God allows us to forget the mayonnaise knife—or things like the importance of keeping track of money—but He graciously gives us the carrot, which is memorable enough to help us remember the knife in the future.
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. —Colossians 3:13